When it comes to dating, taking the people that you are interested in at their word is an important step. This can be hard, because sometimes communication is not blunt and direct, and people feel they need to read between the lines to pull the information out.
Often, it is human nature to see the things we want to see. Many people, for example, choose to see the best qualities in other people while ignoring qualities that could be considered negative. Being aware of the conversations that you have about topics that are important to you, whether they are marriage, religion, or having children, among other things, is essential because conversations surrounding these things are critical.
If someone lets you know that they do not want to get married, take it at face value but also get more information. If, with more discussion, you realize that it’s an at this point in their life thing, but they may be open to marriage after they are more settled (like after their schooling is done, or a number of other possible reasons), then that is a lot different than not wanting to get married ever.
Some people choose to get these questions out of the way relatively early in the dating process. Professionals seem to be divided over whether this is the best option, however. Either way, most agree that if these things are high priorities for you, they should at least be brought up within the first three months of dating, if not sooner.
Also, if two people are both not entirely sure what they want in the future, as they learn more and figure it out it can be a smart plan to communicate this to the other person. Many people start dating at a time where they are not sure, learning more about their wants, desires, and needs as time goes by.
Whatever your goals with phone dating are, because of its focus on conversation and on dating, it is easy and perfectly acceptable to bring up the wants, needs, and desires that you are already aware of. Excellent and open communication are two of the best building blocks of great relationships.
